How’s it going? My goodness what a crazy world we all live in, so much going on, so much to talk about. But for today lets get a little deep, not boring but deep. I want to talk about mistakes, we have all made them I’m sure there are a few choices or decisions or actions that we wish we could just turn back and undo and I want to talk about how I find that these things can really effect our lives going forward but maybe not in the way that you think.
So automatically for me when I think back on a few of these things that I have done that I am not proud of two overwhelming emotions come up, the first is a deep sense of regret and the second is guilt. Now the funny thing about it is that even though these two emotions are almost always 100% justifiable, they are useless because it is impossible to go back in time and make a different decision or say something different to that person ( can you tell i’m speaking from experience ), and yet we can go for years if not our whole lives with this overwhelming feeling of guilt and regret. Another interesting thing to note however is that those emotions will always keep us exactly where we are and they will never help propel us forward. I think that somewhere we know that we are not perfect and that we make mistakes but I think that we have also lied to ourselves throughout our lives and decided somehow that we can never be forgiven for certain things……before you get all depressed hang in there it get’s better because I’m here to tell you that guilt should have no place in our minds neither regret, don’t take that as we should have no moral compass but I would categorize these emotions as the first steps towards moving forward not the end destination that we should linger on, I find that so many people get stuck there and that they don’t move forward. Even when the people that we might have wronged moved on we can’t seem to forgive ourselves! And if you and I can’t forgive ourselves how are we ever supposed to move on. So instead of moving forward, these negative emotions just build and build and build to the point where we just can’t take it anymore and things like our jobs and more importantly our relationships start to slip to the point where the people around us don’t even recognize the person that we have become.
Imagine someone who is in a hurry to get to an important meeting, so he or she runs into the office building where they are employed, and goes up to the elevator like every single day for the past 10 years they have worked there, just to be greeted by an “Out Of Order” sign, now what would happen if that person just through there hands up in the air and sat there crying because they couldn’t go into the elevator to get to there meeting? Well eventually there boss would walk down the stair case that was conveniently just a few feet away and say “What is wrong with you, why didn’t you make it to the meeting? Why didn’t you just take the stairs?” Well as silly as that story is that’s exactly what it’s like for us to remain in our guilt or our regret. Sure we have done things that we are not proud of and in some serious cases they may of even ended up effecting a big portion of our lives, but as long as you still have breath in you there is hope to turn it all around. Consider this:
“No work of love will flourish out of guilt, fear, or hollowness of heart, just as no valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living now” ~ Alan Watts
Now here’s something that I feel we can relate to:
“I don’t want to forgive myself that’s why I hate psychoanalysis. I think if your guilty of something you should live with it!” ~ Orson Welles
But now something that I base my life off of as a Christian lets see what the Bible says about guilt:
1st John 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
Notice how that scripture verse starts out with, “If we confess our sins” in other words if we acknowledge that what we have done is wrong, and ask for forgiveness God is more then willing if not over joyed to throw away any feelings of guilt or condemnation and to forgive us the things that we beat ourselves up over daily.
In closing you don’t have to live with guilt or regret and longer then you want to. Come to terms with it and acknowledge that you did something your not proud of repent of it and determine to not do it again, and then let those feelings die INSTANTLY.
I find the world that we live in to be a really crazy one that will try and put lies into your head at every opportunity, and then find reasons to justify them. But the funny thing about lies is that once you start believing them and accepting them and justifying them, you’re in for a whole world of trouble.
No one is perfect, you’re a good person who is here on this earth for a reason, move on.
John 8:36 “He who the Son sets free, is free indeed!”